Hopefully most of you have seen the movie "Fireproof" by now, but if not, you MUST watch it! And then, after you watch it you should get the book, "The Love Dare" . It is a 40 day challenge for husbands and wives. Each day is 2-3 short pages of great advice, wisdom, and scripture, and then one dare a day. ex: day 10 dare "Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse - something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage." Phillip and I are doing this at the same time, and taking up to 2-3 days to complete some dares. We are on day 18 and we started The Love Dare on Jan. 20. I love taking it slower because we get to savor the sweetness of it! If your husband is unwilling to do this with you, just secretly start doing the Love Dare on him! He'll notice a difference for sure, and you'll notice a difference in your attitude towards him. Every day that I read it I am convicted of yet another area where I need to move myself out of the way and let the Lord work in me. He is my only hope for change in myself. That is how to be a better wife, not by trying harder, but by letting the Lord take over. Here is another great excerpt from the inside cover, "Receive this as a warning. This forty day journey cannot be taken lightly. It is a challenging and often difficult process, but an incredibly fullfilling one. To take this dare requires a resolute mind and a steadfast determination. It is not meant to be sampled or briefly tested, and those who quit early will forfeit the greatest benefits. If you will commit to a day at a time for forty days, the results could change your life and your marriage. Consider it a dare, from others who have done it before you."
I dare you!